On Tuesday I lost my friend.
We lost our friend. As my friend Donna Hup stated, “Even though she was only 27, she lived life more than some 80-year-olds.”
Amy of Modern Rural Living died in a car crash Tuesday morning. Many of us had just seen her hours ago at a meeting. I’ve read all of the news articles about the crash and her obituary, but I still find myself wondering if it’s really true.
My heart feels like it’s breaking and wrenching. I think of Amy’s fiance and parents of whom she talked about all of the time. She loved them and told us often. I connected with how Amy loved her pup as fiercely as I love my own. Earlier this month, I met Patches for the first time. He growled at me but let me give him a snuggle anyway and we laughed and laughed.
Amy was not only a good friend to me, but the other North Iowa bloggers. We had so many fantastic adventures during the past two years. She was always up for exploring a new place or embarking on a road trip.
It is an honor and privilege to have shared some of my favorite and happiest moments with Amy during our time in Iowa.
I had no doubt that Amy’s blog would take her places. She had a fire for blogging and genuinely loved the process of intermingling storytelling with visual arts. Plus, she was damn good at it. She designed the North Iowa Bloggers website and many of us hired her to create our logos. There are a lot of blogs in my blog feed, but I always clicked on her new posts first.
People looked to Amy for advice regarding their blogs and websites and she always took the time to answer their questions or find the answers. She treated everyone with compassion and respect and made me want to be a kinder person. When people remember Amy, they mention her bright smile and enthusiasm right away. This is all true. She was delightfully silly and put people at ease. It didn’t take long to feel close to Amy.
On the way to Cedar Rapids, we hit a raccoon that scrambled onto the highway. She comforted me by explaining that it probably had rabies since it was running around during daylight. Later that afternoon, I remember how we were busy taking photos of the vendors we chose for lunch at NewBo City Market. The owner at Zaytoon Mediterranean Grill caught Amy snapping a photo and asked in surprise, “Why are you taking photos?” She replied “Because your food rocks and I want people to know!” Of course, this put a huge smile on the owner’s face and they chatted for quite a while.
Another favorite memory is when six of us bloggers spent the day in Webster City. We walked into the grand entrance of the library and Amy gleefully exclaimed “It’s an oculus!” as we stared up at the incredible architectural feature. I giggled about this for days.
Amy wasn’t just a friend, she was like a sister. The other North Iowa bloggers are like my sisters, too. We’re practically family and I love them all. Now, I tell them all of the time. I’m telling everyone, both friends and strangers that I love them so often they probably think I’m crazy. Let them think what they want.
I miss our friend.
Iowa Bloggers Remember Amy:
Alicia Schmitt: Amy’s Gift
Alison Rost: Chocolate Avocado Cupcakes
Beth Ann Chiles: A Beautiful Spirit
Bryan Odeen: Running In Memory
Donna Hup: Comfort In Sorrow – Remembering Amy Hild
Jennifer Schmitt: Amy’s Energy & Is There A Right Way To Grieve? Hearts Left Behind
Joy Brown: I Can’t Say Goodbye
Katy Flint: Dealing With It & Dear Amy
Kelly Gau Studios: There Is A Time For Everything. . . Even Death
Laura Weers: My Memories of Amy Hild
Mary Hopper: Relationships Are Everything
Sara Broers: Amy Of Modern Rural Living Was Set To Soar In Blogging & Is Now Soaring In The Heavens
Seneca Epley Photography: Remembering Amy
Val Plagge: Amy’s Gift of Friendship